If you’ve been reading here for a while, you’ve noticed my contributions have generally been theoretical rather than practical. The reason being I am still a beta slowly working on self-improvement (with as much failure as success), rather than the patriarch I plan to be, and am thus not in a position to provide much practical advice on becoming alpha with any authority.
On the other hand, I think there is one area where I can offer some solid advice that is lacking. I have found that most of the advice in the manosphere is geared towards the beta, the average man of moderate social abilities with a circle of friends and the occasional success with woman. Very rarely is advice given that is addressed to the omega, the man with no social abilities, few, if any friends, and no success with women. I have mentioned I used to be an omega, in both the conventional and Voxian sense, who through years of effort, hard-work, and self-improvement became a better version of myself, so I think I can help fill this gap.
Thus begins part one of the Omega’s Guide to Not Being a Loser (maybe someone can help me think of a better title).
First, some information on what this guide is and is not. This is not a guide for becoming an alpha male admired by all; it is a guide for becoming a socially functional member of society. This guide will not help you score dozens of chicks, but it will help you talk to girls and get the occasional relationship. This guide will not make you a leader of men, but it will help you acquire a circle of friends. This guide will not help you rule the club each weekend, but it will help it so that you have social activities to attend most weekends. This guide is not about changing who you are, but rather making you a better, happier, more fulfilled version of yourself; I am not trying to make an introvert into an extrovert, but even the most introverted need some social interaction.
This guide is for the omega, the loser, the socially maladjusted who wants to better himself and get more out of life.
How to tell if this guide is for you:
- You spend most of your Friday and Saturday evenings at home playing video games or surfing 4chan rather than spending time with friends.
- You have few friends, wish you had more, but don’t know how to make some.
- You have few social activities that aren’t church, work, or school related; ie. places where people are more or less forced to accept you.
- You spend 30-40 or more hours a week on the internet or video games.
- You are unable to carry on a decent conversation with strangers, ie; Anything beyond “Hi.” “How are you?” “I’m doing well.” is awkward, if it happens at all.
- You have unable to carry on a conversation with a girl.
- You are unable to initiate a conversation with a girl.
- You have liked a girl for months (years) and have never talked with her beyond the occasional hello or perfunctory, “How are you?”
- You are miserable and lonely, but have no idea how to fix it.
- You feel incapable of reading other people’s emotional states and the actions and emotions of other people confuse you.
- You often bored with life in general.
Do a fair amount of these honestly apply to you? If they do, you are likely an omega and you are who this guide is aimed to.
Now, be honest with yourself. It may suck to acknowledge that you are on the bottom of the social hierarchy, but you can’t improve your life until you realize you have improving to do. You don’t have to tell me, but you do have to tell yourself.
So, this is the first step to no longer being a loser:
Acknowledge to yourself that you need to improve yourself.
It is not normal and not healthy to have no friends, to be lonely, to spend all your free times in your room alone on your electronic devices, and to be unable to talk to girls or strangers.
Don’t split hairs (I browse Reddit, not 4chan and three weeks ago I spent Saturday at Games Workshop). Don’t rationalize (I’m an introvert, I don’t need friends; I’m happy being alone). Don’t feel hopeless (why would anybody want to spend time with me?). You know perfectly well you are lonely and miserable and wish you could be different. So, let me help you help yourself.
I have a loose plan for this project, but if you want something specific covered, feel free to ask.
With this series I am going to develop a plan to help Omegas and losers develop themselves into socially capable people with lives they can enjoy. Omegas (and Voxian gammas) are the target audience. If you are not an omega, I still feel free to read along, you might still get something out of it. As well, feel free to comment and provide any information you think may be relevant.
Once I’m done, I might compile the series into a pamphlet or short book if I think there is enough demand for it, and if I do so, I will use suggestions given to improve it.