I had a sort of mini-revelation a few weeks ago. I was gonna write about it then, but didn’t get around to it, so I have no idea what inspired it. If someone else had this idea and I’m ripping you off without acknowledgment, I apologize.
But anyway, the mini-epiphany is a fairly simple concept, but it’s not something I ever put together. Here it is:
To get what you want in life you have to be the kind of man who has what you want.
It’s simple, no? Yet, it’s an elusive thought.
You can run through the approved life script, you can work hard, you can develop yourself, you can learn game, you can lift weights, you can expand your intellect, but in the end, it will all be for naught if it is not helping you progress towards your goal.
The first part of this is determing your goal. What do you want out of life? You need to decide where you want to be before you can get there. I’m still working on this myself, but I’m inching closer.
But once you’ve decided where you want to be, how do you determine what you should work on to get where you want?
Know the type of man who will have what you want, then become him.
Is there a career or job you want to have? Become the kind of employee an employer in that field would hire.
Do you want a promotion? Become the type of man your boss would promote.
Do you want your own business or to become rich? Become the type of man who would run a successful business.
Do you want to master a skill? Become the type of person who has mastered that skill.
Do you want to attract a certain type of girl? Become the type of man that type of girl couldn’t help but swoon over.
Do you want to live the life of an international player? Become the type of man who would quit his job, travel everywhere, and attract attractive women.
Whatever you want to have in life, find out what type of man who has it, then become that man.
To do this, find out who has the type of life you want. Find as many of them as you can. You have the internet, it shouldn’t be hard; there’s probably a part of the blogosphere devoted to it.
Study what they all have in common; what virtues do they share? What defines them as a group? What have they all done the same? What experiences do they share?
Once you understand what makes that type of man that type of man, become that type of man. Develop those virtues. Do those things. Have those experiences.
There is a corallary to this.
When you consider doing something (or not doing something), ask yourself the question:
Would the man who has the life I want do this?
Would a successful, rich business owner spend his evening watching TV? Or would a successful rich business owner spend his evening working on his business? What would Bill Gates do?
Would the martial arts master lie sleep-in, then laze about the house for the morning? Or would the martial arts master get up early, exercise hard, then practice his forms? What would Musashi do?
Would the successful novelist spend an hour on Facebook? Or would the successful novelist spend that hour on the next page of his novel? What would Orson Scott Card do?
Would the type of man who attracts a pretty, traditional young girl looking to be a mother spend his day masturbating to pornography? Or would he be reading his Bible and spending time developing himself as a man? What would the elder at your church with a loving wife and 6 children do?
Would the international player stay home surfing the internet? Or would the international player go to the club grinding approaches? What would Roosh do?
When you do something, you must ask yourself whether the type of man you want to be would be doing that something.
If the answer is no, maybe it is time to change your behaviour.
I admit I make it sound easy. It isn’t. I struggle hard with this. Even St. Paul had this problem.
“For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.
But finding out and acknowledging what you should be doing is the first step you have to take before you can accomplish your goals. Actually carrying out what you should, will require harnessing your willpower and ability.
In conclusion, become the type of man who has the type of life you want.